I really enjoy watching our people up on stage at Weequahic.

Whether it be the entire bunk putting on a skit for MTv Night, Finch and the staff spewing laughter at each other, or the thespians putting on an amazing show… it’s just so much fun. The bright lights, the costumes, the pageantry are all hilarious and fun and (mostly) heartwarming.

Having been on the stage at the end of these shows, I know the power of the lights. They are incredibly bright and shine perfectly down on the stage. The lights make it so you can’t see anything out in the audience or backstage either.

The light drowns out everything except what’s most important: the show on stage.

In the Moment

Here’s a question: when have you felt most glad about being who you are? Perhaps laughing so hard with your friends that you ‘snarf?’ At the end of a great game? Sitting around the campfire and looking out at the lake as some old guy drones on about gratitude, attitude or courage?

(Sheesh… that guy….)

I’m sure there are a lot of different moments and different situations when you’ve felt grateful to just be you.

Do you know one of the things they all have in common? You were complete immersed in the moment.

Whenever it was, whoever you were with, whatever you were doing, you were completely and utterly engaged. The past didn’t matter and the future wasn’t in mind. It was all about that moment.

You weren’t thinking about your homework or next meal or what you were going to text your friends about. What happened yesterday or last week was nowhere near your attention.

It was all about that moment.

Shine the Light

When you focus your attention completely on the moment at hand, you forget the past and put no thought towards the future. You are engrossed with the here and now. And, in that moment, you can dance, you can play, you can interact with the environment and the people around you fully in the moment.

When you turn down the spotlight, you’ll be able to see the audience ahead of you and those supporting you back stage. But you’ll no longer be focusing on the ‘here and now.’ And the moment will suffer for it.

Mind you, I’m not suggesting you shine the light on yourself. Rather, shine it on the moment. You’ll get plenty of light and, more importantly, have the gift of a moment.

Have a great weekend!

Our kids (and our staff) arrive at Weequahic ready to have a remarkable experience. New experiences, new friends, new activities…. So much fun!

At Weequahic, we get to enjoy things we never would back home. Not many of us have an 85-acre lake with huge trampolines and climbing towers. Unless you are really lucky, you don’t have a Ceramics Studio next to a Fashion Design Studio next to the Woodshop. Very few of us can move seamlessly between a baseball game to a basketball tournament and then jump in the pool to cool off, all before lunch.

Not many of have parents who would welcome a three- or six-week sleepover. And, very few of us get to enjoy so much attention from so many great ‘near peer’ counselors.

We GET to do these things. And, we get to do them WITH a ton of old and new friends. While all of this presents an amazing opportunity, it also hides a significant risk: that you become a consumer or camp rather than a part of it.

Consumers

We are all consumers. Our lungs consume oxygen moment to moment. Our bodies food and liquids each day to keep everything going. We do a bit (or more) of shopping for groceries and things. Media is consumed in the form of news, entertainment, and education.

All this is well and good. And, if kept in balance, being a consumer is useful.

However, are the moments of consumption memorable? Here’s a question to find out: what did you eat last Tuesday? When was the last time you played with the most recent birthday gift? What show did you watch last Thursday and what was it about?

Consumption, unless it’s a truly special thing like going to a wedding or having a very special meal at a very special spot, is rarely memorable.

If we aren’t careful, we can become consumers of camp, too.

Being a Part

So, what’s the alternative from being a consumer of camp?

Becoming a part of it.

‘Don’t I do that by simply showing up?’ you ask. No, not really. Your body will be there, yes. And, you’ll have all the opportunities to enjoy all the activities. You can eat the food you want, choose the activities you enjoy, and sleep in a comfortable bed.

But, here’s a secret of camp few people will tell you: 

Camp is not all about you. Rather, it’s about all of us.

I had a great conversation LaDarrius Calvin, a wonderful young man who has been connected with Weequahic for a long time. When he arrived at camp, he thought “What the heck can I bring to this place? It’s so beautiful and so many great people – they don’t need me.”

And then he decided, “I’m going to leave this place better than when I found it.”

Rather than becoming a consumer of camp, going through the motions and following instructions, he connected widely with those around him, cared wisely for himself and others, and committed wholly to what we attempt to do each summer. Three years later, his decision proved prophetic. He has made Weequahic better. And, in turn, himself as well.

How About You? 

Are you just going to enjoy camp and all it’s bells and whistles? Or, are you going to get out of your comfort zone and connect. Are you going to become a part of the fabric of camp or remain content to skip along the outside? Are you going to commit?

Either way, you get to choose. You can decide to consume camp this coming summer. You’ll have fun and meet some nice people.

But this approach won’t lead to many connections, many memories, many lasting connections. If you instead decide to dive-in with all your worries and expectations and excitement and connect and become a part of Weequahic, you’ll become a part of something larger than yourself… and be all the better for it.

So, which will you be – a consumer or a part of camp? We’ll find out this summer!

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery.

If you are of a certain age, you may remember this quote from Le Petit Prince. I struggled mightily through that short book under the watchful eyes of Monsieur Mencin, my high school French teacher. I’ll admit, I didn’t enjoy the book at that point.

Having re-read it since (in English), my opinion has changed. It’s a lovely book.

The quote above was brought to my attention by a podcast series I’ve been enjoying about Mr. Fred Rogers, Finding Fred. It turns out the quote above was one Mr. Rogers went back to often. It’s easy to tell why.

What’s Essential at Camp?

During the off-season, we spend a lot of time thinking about the physical property of Weequahic. What do we need to do to keep the buildings and grounds safe? How can we improve their look? Are there program areas or bunks or boats that we need to add or change? Where do we need to re-grow or fertilize the grass?

In other words, we focus on what is visible, the outward appearance and offering of Weequahic. Are these essential aspects of a thriving camp?

In a word, ‘No.’

It’s About…

We’ve said for many years that you can enjoy a great camp in a parking lot if you have the right people. But it’s not really just the people, is it? It’s actually the community which they build together, the feeling of togetherness they create.

It’s all the things invisible to the eye that matter most.

Commitment to treating each person with care. Connecting the campers to each other in all the positive ways. Assuming the mission of the community into yourself and transmitting it to those around you through your actions. Taking the values to heart and living them out.

We can’t see the invisible bonds of connection and kinship our campers develop and enjoy with each other and the team. No one can see what drives the intention of the leaders. You can’t see the clean air, the welcoming attitude, or the courage our kids (and staff) develop.

But all of these things are always at camp. When you are there, you’ll know it… as soon as you let your heart ‘see.’